Comments for Confessions of a Mean Mommy

Comment on Spoiled Rotten? by Mrs Embers

Mrs Embers — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:23:59 +0000

We’re trying not to spoil the boys- sometimes we succeed, sometimes we don’t. I know they don’t do as much housework as they could; it’s not that I think they shouldn’t have to do it, but that it’s just easier for me to do it. I’m trying to get past that.

It’s great when it works, though. A few weeks ago, Simon (4), who loves the band KISS, wanted the Gene Simmons controller for Guitar Hero. Now, not only am I NOT going to spend $70 on that for him (we don’t even spend that on birthdays), we don’t even HAVE whatever you play those games on! We talked about money and saving and also alternatives: what else could he do or use to be happy without that toy? We (he and I) ended up constructing an Axe out of cardboard, duct tape and paint, and I’m quite proud of the results- I think he is, too!:

http://csectionlobotomy.wordpress.com/2010/03/06/genes-guitar/

Comment on A(nother) Farewell to the Daughter I’ll Never Have by jesscio

jesscio — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:56:49 +0000

I think you should do it because Margot Mary really is a great name!

Comment on What’s in a Name? In Mine? A Lot! by Emma

Emma — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:18:07 +0000

Hello,

I did change my name when I got married. I LOVED my maiden name, and still do. It was “Tickle” which was always a fabulously fun name and people always responded to it really well. (yes it is exactly like the Mr Men books, so my Dad is Mr Tickle) I have heard every possible joke you can imagine! But when I got married I thought about all the children/travel/paperwork issues. I never saw it as a feminist issue because I am me no matter what you call me. If I need my name to feel like a feminist then I think that makes me not strong enough in my beliefs.

But the reason I chose to change it is that my father does research for people into their family tree. He has traced our family back to about the 1600 and he said that when there are name issues it starts to mess up the family line and things become difficult to follow. It can be hard enough to follow a family correctly and so I chose to give up my very fun name and take on my married name. I don’t regret it. It makes it easier for everything else and it only took one week to get all my paperwork sorted. Took longer to get used to people calling out my name! But 10 years on I would still do the same thing.

Comment on Feel like a failure as a parent? You may be doing everything exactly right. by dreamcatcher09

dreamcatcher09 — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:30:37 +0000

When my daughter was in daycare, she was about 2 and a half. She had learned how to dress herself. She had her shirt on inside out, her pants on backwards also her shoes, but she was proud of herself so I let her go to school like that because it was her victory, sort of like painting the picture on the table instead of the paper. But yeah eventually her shoes were put on the right side, and and she learned how to put her clothes on the right way, Now she is sixteen and well on her way to becoming a well responsible young lady. Cool thank you for making me feel like I am ok in my decision making of being a mommy.

Comment on From Jack LaLanne to Pilates: Moms, Kids, and Exercise by Mrs Embers

Mrs Embers — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:41:48 +0000

My aunt has a yoga DVD for kids that she does with the whole group sometimes- I’m looking for something similar. I can’t get out to the gym/ classes, so something like that would be so great for me and the boys.

Comment on Yes, You Do Have to Eat Your Vegetables! by Mrs Embers

Mrs Embers — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:37:35 +0000

We try to get the boys to eat vegetables, but we find ourselves in the “eat 5 more bites” situation- it’s that, or my 4-year old would rather go to bed hungry and then cry all night. He knows WHY he needs to eat them-he just hasn’t developed a taste for them yet. I figure if we can get him to at least try some of what I’m serving, he’ll learn to like some of it. I’d be quite happy if he and his brother would accept a rotation of peas, broccoli, carrots and green beans!

Comment on A(nother) Farewell to the Daughter I’ll Never Have by Mrs Embers

Mrs Embers — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:22:30 +0000

We have 2 boys (4 and 2), and we won’t be having any more babies. I have to admit it was a bit of a relief to have boys and (I hope!) not look forward to my kids wanting to dress like Hannah Montana and play with Bratz, but it was sad to put away the name we’d picked out (Evelyn, for my husband’s grandmother), and to know I’d never see my husband with a little girl- he’d have been GREAT with a daughter. Maybe not so much with her future boyfriends, though.

All in all, I’m perfectly content with my boys, but I understand wanting a girl.

I consider myself lucky in that I have a 4-year old niece, 3 months younger than my oldest guy. She lives half-way across the country, but when I look at adorable girlie clothes, I can at least imagine buying them for her. I’ve never wished she was mine, but I DO wish my brother and his family lived closer to us. Girls are their own kind of fun.

Comment on A(nother) Farewell to the Daughter I’ll Never Have by Christina

Christina — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:08:00 +0000

I totally understand–and I have two girls. The hair and clothes are more fun. I confess I used to feel sorry for moms who had only boys and I never wanted one myself–until recently. (Maybe it has something to do with the unique form of abuse my miniMe teen daughter is capable of inflicting on me.) I suddenly really wish I had a son (but it’s not going to happen, obviously.)

Comment on A(nother) Farewell to the Daughter I’ll Never Have by babelbabe

babelbabe — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:29:36 +0000

I have four boys.
Not because we were “trying” for a girl, but because I got pregnant four times and each time, we had a boy, cuz that’s what happens.
I’ll never have my little Eleanor. I’m ok with it, but I do hear you loud and clear. And I spoil my lovely niece ROTTEN. Her poor brother probably thinks I don’t love him, although I do, very very much, but I can buy all those pretty, pink things for her.

Comment on A(nother) Farewell to the Daughter I’ll Never Have by Bridget

Bridget — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 20:06:18 +0000

It seems like you have baby fever!